RISK REDUCTION STRATEGIES
FOR MEN

 

1. Listen carefully. Take time to hear what the woman (or man) is saying. If you feel she (or he) is not being direct or is giving you a "mixed message," ask for a clarification.

2. Don't fall for the common stereotype that when a woman says "No" she really means "Yes." "No" means "No." If a woman says "No" to sexual contact, believe her and stop.

3. Remember that date rape is a crime. It is never acceptable to use force in sexual situations, no matter what the circumstances.

4. Don't make assumptions about a person's behavior. Don't automatically assume that a woman wants to have sex just because she drinks heavily, dresses provocatively, or agrees to go to your room. Don't assume that just because a woman has had sex with you previously she is willing to have sex with you again. Also don't assume that just because a woman consents to kissing or other sexual intimacies she is willing to have sexual intercourse.

5. Be aware that having sex with someone who is mentally or physically incapable of giving consent is rape. If you have sex with an individual who is drugged, intoxicated, passed out, incapable of saying "No", or unaware of what is happening around him or her, you may be guilty of rape.

6. Be especially careful in group situations. Be prepared to resist pressure from friends to participate in violent or criminal acts.

7. "Get involved" if you believe that someone is at risk. If you see someone in trouble at a party or a friend using force or pressuring a woman or man, don't be afraid to Intervene. You may save the individual from the trauma of sexual assault and your friend from the ordeal of criminal prosecution.


Both men and women should be especially careful in situations Involving the use of alcohol or drugs. Alcohol and drugs can Interfere with your ability to assess situations and to communicate effectively.